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Addressing Problematic Anger: Finding Balance and Healing
Do you find yourself experiencing anger in ways that seem inappropriate to the
situations in your life? Maybe you have noticed yourself being passive
aggressive or lashing out when you simply want to express your needs calmly.
This is what we refer to as "problematic anger."
Take, for instance, a scenario where someone asks you to do something simple
like picking up groceries, and instead of being assertive and honest, you find
yourself resentfully agreeing, only to later express your frustration with
statement like, "I always end up doing everything anyway." This kind of
response is likely to lead to more confusion and less connection in our
relationships.
Understanding the root causes of inappropriate anger is crucial for healing. It
could stem from deep-seated beliefs like, "I have to handle everything myself,"
or it might be linked to unresolved childhood experiences, such as taking on the
role of the fixer and feeling unable to rest until everything is “perfect”.
The path to managing this type of anger involves challenging these harmful
beliefs and building the capacity to tolerate and process our emotional reactions.
Through intention, self-awareness, and focused attention, we can learn to hold
onto our anger without letting it control us. Imagine transforming from feeling
overwhelmed by anger to having the power to choose how to channel that
energy constructively, or even just allowing it to exist within us without needing
to act on it.
Sometimes, anger can also be directed inward, leading to harsh self-criticism or
an unrelenting drive for perfection. This self-directed anger can have
detrimental effects on various aspects of our lives, from relationships to
personal fulfillment.
By addressing these patterns of anger, we can create healthier ways of relating
to ourselves and others, leading to greater balance and fulfilment in life. If you
are ready to explore your relationship with anger and embark on a journey
towards healing and growth, I am here to support you every step of the way.
Also, take a read of my other blog post on “Boundaries and Assertiveness” as it
may be helpful when learning to understand problematic anger.
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